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Are we our own worst enemies when it comes to romance? What if instead, we dated like a scientist, using equations and analysis, rather than feelings and attraction to find love.

In this new episode Steven sits down with dating coach and behavioural scientist, Logan Ury.

Logan is a behavioural expert, dating coach and Director of Relationship Science at the dating app, Hinge. She is also the author of the book, ‘How To Not Die Alone’, which outlines the scientific theories she uses with her clients to help them find love.

In this conversation Logan and Steven discuss topics, such as:

Why Logan is a dating coach and her work with Hinge

How she helps people get out of their own way and find their dating blindspots

The ways that modern dating is very new for history

Researching the dating habits of Gen Z

Hiring a dating coach for herself

How Logan found her husband at work

Attachment theory and its importance for dating

How you can change your attachment style

The negativity bias and how our brain runs on ancient software

Why you should go for a securely attached person who may seem boring

The reasons that securely attached people are the heroes of the dating world

Why people are so addicted to f**k boys

The importance of taking a break during a fight

Understanding our dating patterns and how we can change them

The secretary problem and the maths of when to stop looking and choose someone

Digital Body Language and how it impacts dating

Why people confuse ‘ick’s’ for dealbreakers

Why you should overcome your ‘ick’s’

The 3 most common dating tendencies and unrealistic expectations

Why the dating environment is so important

How to date like a scientist

Why you shouldn’t try to be perfect on a date

Vulnerability as a magnet for connection

The post date 8 checklist

Why you should ignore the spark and focus on the slow burn

What things matter less than people think for relationships and what do they underestimate

Why you need to be able to fight well in a relationship

The tips and tricks to a dating profile

why vulnerability is strength

The difference between a maximiser and a satisfier

Logan’s husbands cancer

Living on a commune

You can find out which of the 3 dating tendencies you are with Logan’s quiz, here: https://bit.ly/491O3lj

You can purchase Logan’s book, ‘How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love’, here: https://amzn.to/476uvdV

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